rewards and consequences

It is so true that a parent has to deal with each child differently. For instance, time out has never been very effective with Taylor but it's fine with BooBoo. When Taylor is told to go to time out he freaks out, calls names, yells and whatever else he can think of. Then the issue becomes the attitude and ugliness instead of the original offense. BooBoo on the other hand will go straight to the spot in the kitchen by the door that goes into the garage and sit there quietly until he's told to get up. We have found that taking away privileges (games, outside play time, etc) is way more effective with Taylor than anything else. Our latest realization is that in the morning when he's not very motivated to get dressed, brush his teeth and get out the door we need to have a consequence. Man, why does this have to be so complicated? Anyway, we've set his outside play time from the time he finishes his homework until 5:30. If we have to repeat ourselves in the morning or if he has an ugly attitude he gets 5 minutes taken away. I then write on the dry erase board on the fridge what time he has to come inside from playing after school. If he does great in the morning he could add minutes to his outside play time. His teacher sort of uses a system like this at school too. Seems to be working out so far.